How to deal with crooked people?

We generally feel comfortable to deal with most of the people around us. Yet, there are some types of people, who don’t understand us and it is hard to communicate with them. But still we have no choice, and had to deal with them. Often we face verbal abuse, embarrassment, insults and experience sense of guilt. All in all it is difficult to manage with such people. 

These crooked type of people are around us and makes our life miserable and unpleasant. 

Look around and you will find them in offices, neighborhoods, in relations, and families. How to deal with them, we cannot avoid them totally, yet we can find some ways to deal with them.

Most of the times our approach depends on the types of listeners, as kids require more gentle, younger people demand focused, and older people require influential approach.

For now let us concentrate on the approach and not on their ages while dealing with them. Let us characterize these difficult people based on their approach towards us or the situation.

IDENTIFY THEM BASED ON THEIR TRAITS / CHARACTERISTICS

Their identification makes it easier for us to deal with them, as we label their personality type, by categorizing them.

I have always co-related the type of people with cruel predator animals and birds to make their characteristics more distinct in my mind.

Traits of Crooked People-(I call them Hyena type)

-They are Multi-faced.

-They are Controlling other people, and are abusive in nature.

-They are Controlling Major decisions, around us. 

– They are Fearless, selfish & they like to Play blame games.

We need to be ready to deal with such people. They often are authoritarian and don’t want others to come in their territory or comfort zone.


WAYS TO DEAL WITH THEM

What If you show that you have identified their type, does it help?

It makes the matter even worse than better, instead you need to find ways to work around them, by keeping yourself in a better position. 

-1-Distraction, Inception, and emotional hatred, attract their attention. By using these you can show your unpredictable nature. Usually our monotonous and simple nature attracts abuses and allows others to take control over us.

-2- If you want to discuss things with them, then discuss solution along-with the problem. Even then you need to be ready to take the responsibility of your own decisions. You can always say that you received guidance from superiors by keeping them informed.

-3- Use Persuasion techniques in groups by choosing like minded people, or through a person close to them.

-4- Use Manipulation techniques by stating hypothetical situations to show negative impacts of certain decisions.

-5-change your interaction level with them. You can show equal level of communication instead of totally surrendering to them. Self-esteem is necessary because it shows your strong knowledge base.

-6-Use group or people with similar perception to borrow ideas while dealing with them.

-7- Use trigger phase during certain critical situations to put forth your positive ideas in the groups. You can always list out the best ways to tackle critical issues and present them when the right time comes.

-8-They love to build their image slowly in the society. Push such people to the utmost limit by triggering their odd responses in front of all. This is the way to expose them. 

-9-Stay in groups, if crooked person find you isolated they keep on targeting you.

-10-Although crooked person use immoral ways to reach their goals, still they feel ashamed if you show your honest, sincere, &  pleasant personality type. Build your clean image, you can do this by controlling your responses.

-11-Keep yourself busy, by working on your hobbies and interests. It helps to build a barrier and boost your confidence in dealing with them.

-12-Without confrontation and responding to intimidation, you can ask others to intervene and settle issues with them. It is easy for a third person to handle the situation and bring things under control. Sometimes small misunderstandings cause big troubles.

-13-Keep record of major situations and your responses. A simple thing like this boosts your confidence and allows you to handle situation better in the near future.

-14-Be ready to follow value based lifelong learning. We don’t want to loose our true nature and identity.

-15- And finally, do you know when we are in total control of our emotions?. It’s when we are faking them. Remember, you show your anger when kids watch television for long hours, you raise your voice and bring face expressions to show your anger, that is the best way to control and handle emotions. 

Be unpredictable !!!  so no one can guess your response easily.


___________________________________________________________


Feel free to write back on this topic.

Sound Proof House

We consider noise as one of the major distractor of our concentration. The effects of the same can be evident as we immediately become alert and focus on the things causing various sounds. There are many ways to make our house sound proof.

Sources of Noise-

The major source of noise is the openings in the houses which primarily allows entry of sounds.

There are two ways we can reduce the noise entry and its effects.

a) By reducing the entry of sound inside our house.

Doors, Windows, and Ventilators- These often allows noise to enter inside, the use of thin film of plastic sheet may reflect back such sound waves (or noise) immediately. Such sheet can be attached to the edges of the windows or openings. Also small amount of noise may enter through solid materials from which doors, windows and ventilators are made of, this can be effectively addressed by connecting such surfaces to bodies which absorb the sound waves.So by vibration of the mass attached to the surfaces the sound energy dissipates.

b) By absorbing the sound waves with selective household materials– This can be done by selecting household items which absorbs the sound waves.

-Furniture-Wooden or any material furniture furbished by soft fur like substance can absorb sound waves. The location of the furniture is important to avoid the sound echos.

– Curtains-Selection of proper type of cloth with lots of pores is essential, which eventually locks the waves entering itself.

– Walls– As walls act as the most reflecting surface for the waves, the same can be used to absorb sound waves. Some of the measures which can be taken are application of wallpapers, or roughening of plaster texture of the wall surface.

-Ceiling– It plays important role in making echo, as height of the ceiling increases so does the echo. The effect can be countered by providing carpet on the floor, exactly opposite hence absorbing the sound waves.

-Flooring– If the floor is covered with a carpet then by its fabric most of the sound is absorbed.

Science of Sound waves-

We need to understand how sound waves travel and the important characteristics of the sound waves in brief.

-Definition-Sound can be defined as the vibrational disturbance produced by a source causing air particles to oscillate under pressure. The sound waves travel in compression and rare-fraction form from its source to the destination point. It requires medium like air, water and solid. The speed of the sound waves is the fastest in the air.

-Frequency– It can be defined as the time required for a particle to complete a cycle. Some sounds have higher frequency than others. The sound from birds has higher frequency. Interestingly these high frequency sound is more disturbing.

-Amplitude-It can be defined as the maximum displacement attained by a particle during its motion. High amplitude resembles higher pitch or noise.

In order for us to counter the effects of the noise and select the absorbing materials, several tests can be performed by using software like Ansys which is commonly used in designing and finding the reliable and exact materials to deal with the problems related to noise reduction.

For residential houses certain noise reduction methods as mentioned above and some trials regarding the furniture arrangements can sort out the problems to the extend.

Night Sky Gazing

Humans have always amazed about the night sky showing many twinkling stars. More they explored and found out about it ,more they were astonished.

Planets

 Some of the twinkling objects are planets, identified from their daily change in position as compared to the other stars. ex. Mars, Venus, Jupiter, Neptune, Uranus, Saturn, Mercury, Pluto, and the Earth.

Moon– Some planets have moons, just like what our Earth has. The other planet’s moons can be visible by using telescope. Ex. Jupiter has 79 moons.

Stars

There are millions of stars which appear from different galaxies, we used our imagination to co-relate the living things to the figure drawn by connection the stars and named them in various constellations. Ex. Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpius, Sagittarius, Capricorns, Aquarius and Pisces.

Galaxies- Milky way is the name of our galaxy, and the near by galaxy to us is Andromeda galaxy. From the Hubble telescope it is found out that there are a million+ galaxies in the universe, and they are expanding at an accelerated rate. Many stars we see in the sky are part of the galaxies.

Asteroids

Asteroids are larger objects. Theyappear once in a while, when they are attracted towards the Sun due to its gravitational field. Their elliptical orbit can be millions of kilometers. They appear periodically and can be predictable based on the orbits. Some of such asteroids areCeres, vista

Meteroids

These are smaller objects than the asteroids, they also appear occasionally. Some of them are Agen, Aarhus.

Comets

Comets are made up of ice, rock and dust. They orbit around the Sun, if attracted towards it. There period of appearance is also several years. ExHalley’s Comet, Holmes.